The Negative Moments

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When we encounter a negative situation we have a choice, we could either be in that situation for a considerable amount of time and curse or we could leave it as soon as possible. If you have a choice you should leave because being in the negative zone can not do any good to you.

Of course, this could not be generalized since we don’t own our surroundings every time and sometimes we have no option but to be in that situation. In those cases surviving those moments would also be considered as an achievement.

It’s important to be in those moments, it helps us grow in ways which we would never understand fully perhaps. We need the negative moments in order contrast them from the positive ones and be grateful for them in the future.

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Tricking the Mind

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We can trick our mind to become happy, long time back I read about this fact and since then I have tested it on me several times and find it working every single time. The theory says that if you wear a fake smile for a short period of time you will end up being genuinely happy.

In practice it involves smiling for about 5 minutes, I know it sounds funny and idiotic but the logic behind this, is that during that time the face muscles send the repeated signals to the mind that the person is happy and that is why he must be smiling. In the beginning, the mind rejects the signal because it remembers about the fake smile but over time the mind forgets about the fact and start believing that the person is happy(since he is smiling) and this makes the person genuinely happy. In the meantime, the mind also starts remembering the happy memories from the past and starts processing those images.

One thing to remember though is if anyone catches you smiling for no reason and that too for a period of 5 minutes he might suspect you of being crazy.

Doubt & Confidence

Doubt is planted in a very subtle way and so is the confidence.

Our subconscious mind process words from different people differently. What this mean is that we are likely to give more importance the feedback given by our closed people than the distant or unknown ones.

An encouraging word from your father can give you an adrenaline rush or can depress you like hell. We all have people around us whom we influence in our daily lives, we all have the power to empower our closed ones and we should do it more often. 

An Unfortunate Incident

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11:00 AM, 15th Jul 2016

I reached Gopalganj Railway Station in order to cancel my waitlisted ticket for Vaishali train scheduled at 2:35pm from Siwan Junction. After waiting in queue for about 15 minutes and realizing that queue is not moving I got to know that there was a link failure at Gopalganj Station. I asked an official (who was having an early lunch in the office) for the reason of failure but he didn’t respond at all as if he didn’t care. Looking at the situation, my cousin suggested me to immediately reach Thawe station to cancel the ticket, since the clock was ticking and we had to cancel the ticket before 2:00pm in order to get a refund so we headed for Thawe station at 11:30am.

12:00 PM, 15th Jul 2016

We reached Thawe station at 12:00pm, looking at the long queue at the PRS, I was devastated. I let my cousin stand in the queue and went ahead to talk to the officials to discuss my situation. The officials assured me that they would clear the queue before 2:00pm and I would get the full refund and told me to calm down. At 12:40pm the link failed at the Thawe station, the guy at the counter checked several times with his colleagues and then put up a sign on the counter saying, “The Counter is closed because of the link failure” at 12:50pm. I requested with the counter guy to help me since I was running out of time and there was really very less time left for me to go to Siwan Junction to cancel the ticket. The counter guy then told me that going to Siwan Junction is my only option and any delay would only lead to no refund of my ticket. I took his advice and I and my cousin headed for Siwan Junction at 01:00pm.

After much struggle and taking so much risk on the road we finally reached Siwan Junction PRS counter at 2:15pm only to realize that the time had run out. I was devastated and exhausted and on top of that the officials at the counter were very rude. I was feeling cheated by the railway authorities and I wanted to talk to anyone who could at least listen to my problem and do something about it.

I started looking for the Station Master, Siwan Junction. I met him in his chamber and he told me that he could not do anything. I then asked for an official who could help me, he suggested meeting with DCI of Siwan Junction. After many findings, I finally got to know the office of DCI Siwan Junction. I had to wait for about 30 minutes to meet P K Shrivastava, DCI Siwan Junction. We had the conversation where I shared my problem only to discover that he could not help me. He, however, remarked that officials at Thawe Station could have helped me if they wanted to and said that there is a provision where if the link failure has happened, the station is entitled to do the offline cancellation of the ticket during that time. I asked him to connect with DCI Thawe and so that I could get my refund properly but not only he refused to do that but also said, “Whatever I have shared with you, do not tell DCI Thawe about it”.

Disappointed with my failures I reverted to Thawe Station in order to talk to DCI Thawe. After reaching Thawe Station at about 5:00pm in the evening I asked the guy at PRS counter for DCI Thawe, he refused to answer my question and instead asked me why I wanted to meet him. After sharing my problem he said DCI Thawe is not here. I asked the counter guy for his name for record keeping, but he refused to give his name. Then I headed to find the Station Master Thawe, and after meeting him and sharing my problem he made a call to someone and said, “There is a problem, please meet this guy“. He then sent me to another office where an official again heard my story again. This guy (also refuse to give his name) made a call somewhere and they chatted a bit on the call. He then said that there are no provisions for offline cancellation during link failure in Thawe station and said that there is nothing he can do about it. He then gave an example of a train crash and said, “Something like that has happened to you in this case and we are very sorry for your loss”.

I am sharing this story with you so that it could reach to someone who could help people like us in getting a better service from Indian railways. I am not alone with this problem, the link failure occurs almost every day in our areas and we just suffer.

PS:
For the record keeping purpose and as suggested by my uncle who is also a lawyer in criminal court Gopalganj, my PNR number for yesterday’s travel is 675-6585426.

“It’s not My Job” Mentality

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Planning, especially for a vacation, is very difficult for me, I find it hard to understand how people plan for vacations long before the scheduled date. Coming from Bihar especially from Gopalganj and living in New Delhi, even the thought of traveling to my hometown make me worried because of the reservation crisis. We have to plan our travel 3 months before the scheduled date and if we are really lucky we get a confirmed ticket on our desired date.

Today was a difficult day for me, not only I was not able to board the train to New Delhi because of the waiting status of the ticket but on top of that I was also not able to cancel that ticket because of connectivity issues in my area(more on that later).

Government officials lack the people skills big time and do not care about anyone at all. We blame the government for everything not happening the way it should have happened but the government also is actually a system comprising of people like us and in this case people who do not care just because of “it’s not my job” mentality.

Everything One Click Away

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With everything simply one click away we are surrounded by distractions like never before.

Think about it, a person with a reasonable Internet connection is able to:
1. Watch any movie at any time
2. Watch YouTube videos for hours
3. Is able to know about almost anything i.e. Why the manholes round ?, What happened at the Bermuda triangle? , The moon landing, and almost anything which pops up in the mind. Every curiosity can be entertained (which was not possible two decades ago).

This puts us in a very strange position moreover, this never happened with our previous generations so they can not help us in this context with their wisdom and experience so we have to figure this out on our own.

Knowledge is everywhere and so is the distraction, if you are reading about Lincoln and how great he was ruling America just one day before your Maths test, clearly you are distracting yourself in the name of gaining knowledge. It would definitely be relevant after the test but reading about it before the test is just keeping you away from what you should be doing.

On Reading Multiple Books at Once

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While reading books I had one core discipline in mind which was, I would read only one book at a time, and I would pick up a new book only after completing the one which I started in the first place. This strategy, however, was keeping me away from reading new and exciting books which I wanted to read during that time and there was too much pressure on selecting the next book. On the brighter side, it also drove me to complete the one which I was reading in order to read the one which I really wanted to read.

In between reading books and doing my day job I also read a lot of blog by various bloggers around the world starting from Seth Godin to Darius Foroux. One thing I found common in all of them are that they read many books at the same time, meaning they don’t wait for one book to complete in order to read next, they read one book in the morning and a different one in the evening. In the beginning, I thought of this strategy as a distraction.

Now I am practicing this strategy and it is kind of fun. It’s true that books do get boring at times and at that time picking up a new book is relly very exciting. Surprisingly enough the book which I got boring the previous day becomes relevant and interesting the very next day.

At present, I am reading “How Mind Works” by Steven Pinker, “The $100 Startup” by Chris Guillebeau, and “Permission Marketing” by Seth Godin.

A Casual Chat

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A casual chat with an old friend releases much burden that we put on ourselves.

With the increasing number of ways to connect with people we often forget to connect with our old friends and also forget how awesome we were in the past.

If you look closely, our success is strongly tied up with the friends we had in the past. I still remember that day in the central library, Jamia Millia Islamia, when Nishat pushed me to stay to prepare for TCS(Tata Consultancy Services), which was coming to our campus the next day. I would have had a totally different future if I would not have stayed that night in the central library and not prepare for the upcoming exam.

The reason some of us feel strangled right now is because there’s no one to support us the way we have been supported in the past by our friends. Whenever I feel lonely I talk to my friends irrespective of the time zone they are in and I am never disappointed.

Growth

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One of the best things about writing every day is that when I see anyone of my past posts I could see that I have grown, and it’s amazing to witness the growth.

I will never monetize this blog because it’s not about earning money, it’s about becoming better so that I can do great in every other sphere of life.

Writing gives direction to thoughts and makes me become more conscious throughout the day, it makes me learn new things, it makes me think and search about good things that have happened throughout the day, sometimes it’s difficult, sometimes it’s very easy, and it makes me believe in myself.

I love writing, this is the best thing ever happened to me.

It’s Like Putting a Coin in the Piggy Bank

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“Why do you write daily”, asked one of my relatives.
I continuously spoke for about 5 minutes explaining why I write daily with all philosophical viewpoints.

“Hmm, why do you go through so much to write every day. “

(Thinking)
“I just explained everything.
Seriously ..!
All right, calm down and explain once again.
It’s okay.”

Then I went on for another 5 minutes, only to realize that it didn’t do any good.

(Thinking)
“How can I make him understand the idea of compounding”.

Then I said, “It’s like putting a coin in the piggy bank every single day”.

His eyes lit up and it made me happy.

It’s crucial to understand the audience, the philosophy of compounding was too much for him but the idea of putting a coin in the piggy bank just clicked.