Me: Finally, today I’ll write about marriage and emotions.
My Inner Voice: Seriously..!!
Me: I mean I will share my learnings from the book “Emotional Intelligence”, and it’s not that I’ll share something out of my butt.
My Inner Voice: Haven’t we discussed this before, just because you have read doesn’t mean you know what it is to be in a marriage and it makes you unqualified for writing about marriages.
Me: Yeah, that’s true ..! But I want to share what I have learned at least it’s better than sharing nothing at all.
My Inner Voice: Alright, but you are on your own and don’t tell me I didn’t warn you about it when people start making fun of you saying that you even write about things you haven’t experienced yet.
Me: Yeah, that’s okay.
I had this conversation in my head every time I want to share something I have read from the book “Emotional Intelligence” on marriages.
Long back I had read the book “How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie. He too had discussed various points on marriages on how to make it successful and things we should and shouldn’t do in a marriage. This time the book “Emotional Intelligence” explained why we should and shouldn’t do those things. This book explained what actually happens in the mind of husband or wife. The author explained various cases of troubled marriages and traced it’s starting location. The various trigger points, the various health issues couple go through if their marriage is troubled. I have to tell you it was quite scary, though.
If I only have to share one very crucial point for a marriage which defines its success, I should share the feeling of contempt and disgust and why it is a poison for a marriage. The married lives have been analyzed over decades and these two feelings are the ones which poison the marriages the most. If a couple has this feeling for their spouse they are bound to get a divorce in next 10 years.