Emotional Intelligence

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A lot has been said and discussed on the topic, “Emotional Intelligence”. I have read a book called “Focus the Hidden Driver of Excellence” by Daniel Goleman (click here to watch my review of this book on YouTube) who has also written the book “Emotional Intelligence” which is New Your times best seller. After doing some research on it this book is on my watch list since “Focus”.

Last year I stumbled upon a video of Sandeep Maheshwari, since then I watched most of his videos from the life changing seminars to mediation techniques. I even have subscribed to his YouTube channel and I am a regular visitor to his channel. A couple of days ago I watched Sandeep Maheshwari talk about “Emotional Intelligence” which now has motivated me enough to read the book by Daniel.

So my next read after, “Solving the Procrastination Puzzle” and “1984” would be “Emotional Intelligence” by Daniel Goleman.


Big Brother is watching you


I am halfway completing the book “1984” by George Orwell. It is the first book that I am reading which is pure fiction and it’s pretty enjoyable. One of the things which I like most about this book is that in that universe even common objects like a paperweight is of so much interest. In the story, things like coffee, tea, and even sugar are rare products and their possession could lead to death.

The plot represents an era where everything is controlled by a government which keeps surveilling its citizens 24 X 7. Every trace of history is deleted if it conflicts with the party’s agenda. People call them the “Big Brother”, and they are constantly reminded by the slogan “Big Brother is watching you”.

The protagonist has just fallen in love with a girl named Julie and is thinking of overthrowing the government. He has no idea how is he going to do so. Just to mention that falling is love is a crime in Oceania(a superstate where the protagonist lives) and is also punishable by death.

Book Review: Permission Marketing


Finally, I completed the book, “Permission Marketing” by Seth Godin (It feels so good to write those words). This book is all about marketing strategies that companies have adopted over the time. Seth Godin has peeled their strategies one by one like an onion and has explained it’s different viewpoints.

We are constantly being interrupted by the marketing people i.e. the movies that we watch, the websites we visit, and the most irritating of all the YouTube ads. First, the author explained about how this existing process is being refined so that people get ads based on their buying and browsing behaviour.

He then explained a new marketing strategy called “the permission marketing” where the customer gives his consent to be marketed, that’s new and much more effective kind of marketing. He shared how this is already being practiced for decades. He also shared the blunders giant companies have made by exploiting the permission they got from their customers and the price they have paid in return.

In short, if you don’t have a marketing degree and you are wondering if you should pursue this field or not, then this book could be a very good start.

The $100 Startup: Book Review

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You know that you have developed a new habit when it is the only thing you can think about after having dinner. Yes, I am talking about my blogging. Research says that it takes 21 days to create a new habit, thankfully it has been more than 9 months and I am still doing it every day. Indeed it is one of the best habits I have ever created.

Thank you, everyone, for helping me in this journey.

I finally completed the book “The $100 Startup” by Chris Guillebeau, I had heard so much about this book and finally, I finished it. This book basically contains several stories of solopreneurs, (solo entrepreneurs) and accidental entrepreneurs. Their fascinating stories would compel you to think that if that could have happened to them it could also happen to you too. The simplicity in the stories is one of the most loving characteristics of the book. This book shares the step by step guidelines of how to build a business from scratch and also shares the steps taken by the people who have done it successfully.

The people featured in this book, all of them have started their business with less than $1000, and their current income is more than $50,000. This is the basic criteria Chris has chosen to include the people in his book. Sounds too good to be true, well you have to read in order to find the truth. Thank you Tauseef for mentioning this book, it was a good read.

PS: I will complete “Permission marketing” by Seth Godin in next week.

Alan Turing: The Code Breaker


I am currently reading the book “How the Mind Works” by Steven Pinker. This book apart from having an amazing book title it also contains exceptional facts and logic behind working of the brain but the book becomes too technical at times and it is really painful to read sometimes.

One strange thing, however, is that whatever I am reading from the book it’s very difficult to put in simple words so I am not able to share those facts with the friends on my blog. Right now the author is explaining how the Turing Machine works(really boring stuff, I did not understand most it), which was built by Alan Turing, a pioneering English computer scientist, mathematician, logician, cryptanalyst and theoretical biologist.

Alan with the help of his machine was able to decipher the famous “Enigma Machine” used by Germans in second world war and helped the Britishers win the war. “The Imitation Game”, 2014 American thriller film directed by Morten Tyldum, is based on the biography of Alan Turing and Benedict Cumberbatch(Sherlock) plays the role of Alan Turing(An Amazing movie by the way).

I will continue reading the book with the hope that I will discover more about the mind and it’s working.

Book Review : “Autobiography of A Yogi” by Yogananda Paramhansa.

As you know I have been reading the book, “Autobiography of A Yogi” by Yogananda Paramhansa.

I completed the book couple of days back. To tell you the truth I never wanted the book to be completed. I was so mesmerized by the events in the book that I still wonder how awesome it would have been to live those moments.

The book cleared many doubts for me, I use to think that hindu religion has no concrete beginning like Christianity and Islam, after reading the book I now am starting to understand how this ancient religion still exists.

It is very difficult to pinpoint what I liked and to summarize what I have learnt from the book, and I think I would not do justice with the book if I mention some of the incidents while leaving others.

With that said, let me share with you briefly what this book is about.

Yogananda from the early stage of his life start searching for a mentor, which he got in his late teens. In his journey I got to know about many great personalities of that time including Mahavatar Babaji, Lahiri Mahasaya, Swami Sri Yukteswar Giri and many other saints. I learned about all of them separately and got to know more about their lives and the experience was amazing.
In the meantime I asked about these personalities with my hindu friends also but to my surprise none of my friends have heard any of them. These people were the reviver of Hindu religion and it’s very sad to see that nobody talks about them.

Yogananda mentioned about his trip to America and Europe and all the adventures he had while those trips. Thanks to his amazing writing skills, I felt that I was with him too.

This book also talks about life after death and to my utmost surprise the belief that we as a Muslim hold for life after death is much similar than the one which is described the book. There are many other learnings from the book which is not possible to write in one post so I have decided that I would share my learning in subsequent posts.

I am so happy that I read this wonderful book because I have found deep respect and love for hindu religion after this experience.

I have been meditating before reading this book also, but now I know how to find answers to my problem in meditation.

This book is definitely a must read for those who like to know more about hindu religion and to know more about people of God realization.


Book Review: Steve Jobs by Walter Isaacson

Today I completed the book Steve Jobs by Walter Isaacson, chairman and CEO of Cable News Network (CNN) and the Managing Editor of Time.

It was really awesome to get to know about the person who changed the world.

Steve Jobs in his early days during his meetings at Apple always used a phrase where he emphasize on making a dent in the universe, people around him were not used to this kind of words but if we see from now he indeed made a dent in the universe and really a big one.

The book has all the aspects of Steve Jobs including his darkest sides. The book starts from the very beginning, where he was adopted by his parents. It was really exciting to know how his love for electronics came into existence and was nurtured by his father.

stevejobsTheir parents told him about the adoption and the realization of being discarded at the birth scarred him and he was very disturbed since the beginning due to this, it was also one of the reasons of his erratic behavior throughout his life.

I was waiting for the moment how Steve Wozniak and Steve Jobs’s friendship came into existence because this was one of those moments where Apple was conceived. I truly enjoyed reading about their friendship and the connection between them.


Being special was one of the things that was engraved in Steve’s mind since the very beginning, it was a story which he believed into and it was told by his parents. It was one of the reasons why he thought he was above the law and also showed many other traits like this in later point of his life.

He was deeply touched by the idea of enlightenment and wanted it badly since the beginning and to achieve enlightenment he tried many drugs including marijuana and LSD, and he was also very public about it.

His journey to India in search of the guru was really motivating, he was so into enlightenment that he came to India to meet guru  Neem Karoli Baba, but unfortunately he died earlier and Steve could not meet him and returned empty handed,  lastly he found peace in Zen Buddhism.

Steve’s real journey started after he was ousted from his own company Apple in 1985, where he made a series of failures in his next venture called NEXT (pretty  neat huh). It was very astonishing to know the series of events that led Pixar to create an animation movie, and how that turned the table all the way to success, as it was eventually was one of the reasons why we know Steve Jobs now.
He resurrected Apple from its soon to be bankruptcy status when he returned in 1997,  and made a series of changes, many people hated him for that and he ultimately saved the day.

I got to know about the famous “Reality Distortion Field” , it’s a phenomenon which many people use to experience at Apple. Steve had a way to making people think in his way of thinking, he could make people believe into doing the impossible, and many hated him for this. The other side of coin was that Steve so much believed into the things that he talked about that people around him starts believing him, which eventually was the reason we have so many great Apple products.

I was fortunate enough to know about all the challenges behind Apple products i.e. MacBook, iPod, iPhone, iTunes, iCloud, iPad, etc. and i have found a deep respect of Apple products after getting to know about the challenges behind them and the problems they had to go through in creating the Apple products.


Steve Jobs had come across a book called Autobiography of a YOGI, by Paramhansa Yogananda, which he found while visiting India, since then he read that book every year. Well that’s not it, at his funeral he made such arrangements that each visitors got a copy of Autobiography of a YOGI, that was his gift to all the people who attended his funeral. If you know me you must have guessed my next book,  that’s right i have already started reading it.

It was really awesome book altogether, if you want to know about a person who has changed almost everything about how we spend our time here, you should have a look at this book, it’s incredible to know about such a person. Indeed there is so much wisdom in books.

Thank you,


The Subconscious Mind

Our subconscious works very mysteriously, it would take another decade to fully understand it perhaps. The conscious brain is the one we can process, which can reason with, it’s also the one responsible for our body movements such as legs, fingers, and other external parts.

So what’s the Subconscious mind then?

Have you ever wondered how our food is digested? or How we recover from any illness?


If you think about deeply about it, there has to be something which who governs all the things inside our body. That’s right it’s our subconscious mind which governs everything else, which conscious can’t.
Well our subconscious not only governs our internal body organs but also know everything and it also acts as a bridge between ourselves and the Supreme power. There have been many scientific discoveries in the past where the inventor had no idea how that particular solution came into existence. There are countless examples which are mentioned in the book “The Power of Your Subconscious Mind”  about this.

One thing I learned from this book is if we really want to achieve something it’s very important to impress the goal upon the subconscious to achieve it, and if we are successful in doing so, then the goal become much easier.

Thank you,


Book Learning: Steve Jobs by Walter Isaacson: Why We Should Focus

I am learning so much from the book Steve Jobs by Walter Isaacson, chairman and CEO of Cable News Network (CNN) and the Managing Editor of Time. In the book Walter has mentioned that Steve’s biggest strength was knowing how to focus.

Upon his return to Apple in 1997 he did so many revolutionary changes that we could not comprehend. Some of them are: completely changing all the board members of the company, shutting down 90% of the projects that was going on at that time and many other changes like that.

stevejobsIt’s true that Apple was on the verge of bankruptcy, and everything somehow look Okay if we see from now. But it was real chaos  at that time, he fired almost 3000 employees and that too with 2 weeks notice only. In the book it has been mentioned very well on how the things were at that time, and it was really horrible.

While everyone was happy to see Steve return to Apple but, a very few people liked Steve as a person because of his nature and personality. Doing these unholy things in the company and that too with a very little support from the people around you is pretty big. It’s like you know people are going to hate you for doing that and you still have to do it because of a bigger purpose.

I remember many times I have been demoralized by my close ones as not to do something and I have not considered it for the sake of them.

We get demoralized by people around us and we feel sad if not supported by our close ones, we should learn this virtue from Steve. It’s not about right or wrong, because being right or wrong is just a matter of perspective and it’s more about what we believe into. It was because he was able to see a picture which other people around him could not see and he didn’t care and he went ahead with his decisions anyways.

Steve was so focused on what he believed in that nobody could shake him, he was in deep trouble because of many other traits that he had, but this was one those which helped him to rise to the top again.

In one of the meetings Steve mentioned “Deciding what not to do is as important as deciding what to do”.

Thank you,



Book Review: Life by Keith Richards

I have a confession to make, I didn’t know anything about Keith Richards before reading this book, and I am not proud of this but, it’s the truth. I picked up this book just to read something which I would have never read if I would have chosen the book the way I use to do before. It was a complete random selection from Amazon. This book was among top biographies to be read, and I selected this for no apparent reason. It was really very difficult to complete this book mainly because it was full of very detailed life style of Keith Richards which I was totally unaware of.

Keith Richards is an English musician, singer, songwriter, actor, and one of the original members of the rock band The Rolling Stone. This guy is a living legend. If you are not a Rolling Stone fan, you may have seen him as Captain Teague, from Pirates of the Caribbean where he played the role of Captain Jack Sparrow’s father.

Keith did not have a very pleasant beginning, it was actually quite rough. From the very start of his life he started playing guitar and was really very passionate for music, there was a very sweet story in the book on how he got his first guitar.

lifeTime and time again I have observed pattern that great people do not plan things, they are so passionate for their stuff that they don’t know what is happening around them, similar was the case for Keith also, in his band everything was about music and everything else got taken care of. It was like everything else was just happening around them and it was as if they just didn’t know what to do with things happening around them because they all were so into music.

They created an era of music and it was amazing to witness it from the words of legend himself and I got a learning that it does not take a mastermind to change the world all it takes is passion for doing things we love. They were not planning for becoming great it was just playing guitars, making songs and nothing else. It is really strange to know all these things because it’s so contrary to the things that we generally believe in.

This book would definitely help those people who would like to know what it takes to be a legend, and this book is more about the total unexpected series of events happening around Keith.
Keith’s transition from being a guitarist to a song writer was also very inspiring. It was quite visible that there was no road map for Keith in early years. Actually he was so busy getting stoned, playing guitar, and partying that there was no time for anything else.  Keith was terrible father, and I feel very sorry for his kids, the things that they had to went through, it reflected the dark aspects of being a legend and a Rockstar.
If I would have to take only one learning from this book I would take this:
In the book Keith mentioned that “If we gave thought how the world is going to react on our songs we wouldn’t have done it..!”

Thank you,