In a casual chat with friends at home, one of my friends pointed out sarcastically that one of our mutual friends is very active on social media and shares a lot of stuff there (mostly poetry in this case). Since his tone was sarcastic we had a good laugh and then we moved on to a different topic.
This incident made me realize my situation, and how I am so active on the social media over past couple of months, and how I must be a topic for many social gatherings where people whom I know must be giving sarcastic comments over my social presence and must be having a good laugh. I was very insecure about myself in the past and when I used to hear those sarcastic comments from any friends of mine, it used to paralyze me for quite some time.
I am a changed person since the day I realized that some people will always have something unpleasant to say about myself irrespective of whatever I do in life and since that day I have a deaf ear against those people.
Now I only concentrate on things that I can do and things that I can control. I cannot do anything about the sarcastic comments happening around me, so I stopped listening to them and start doing the things I always wanted to do and this way of life is simply amazing..!!!!
Remember the time when you met a relative after a long time who has just visited your hometown?
Noise is technically defined as random fluctuations that do not contain meaningful data or other information.
Talking about people,their lives, and opinion is just noise. We are surrounded with people who practice this incessantly. Yeah, once in a while it is nice to know about people and their lives whom you are related with but making a habit to only talk about people and their lives is not going to help you in any way.
Today’s visit was fruitful however because I got to know about so many things that are happening in my hometown but I wouldn’t discuss anything with anyone anymore about it because it’s all noise. Bob Proctor, calls it the chatter of the masses and says that it does not contain any relevant information and it only wastes time. At the same time talking about people is only acceptable if by any chance it motivates you in any way or if you can learn something out of it.
Today I came home by Uber, I generally travel by bike which is pretty convenient in Jamia Nagar area because traffic jams never affected my routine. On the other hand, it is really difficult for a cab to pass through this area, no wonder many people claim we(as a Muslim community) are backward. It took us 45 minutes to cover only 2 kilometers and the reason was only a few people who didn’t know what they were doing.
Our mindset defines the actions we take and the way we live our life is directly proportional to how conscious we are of our surroundings.
Visit Jamia Nagar and you can witness the underdeveloped nature of people who live here. The reason there’s so much chaos in this region is because people have a very self-centered nature and everyone is thinking only about themselves. Education is not about getting a degree, it’s about becoming a learner for life, it’s about having a place in the heart for others, it’s about putting your feet in other people’s shoes to get their point of view.
Parking on the roads and blocking the road reflects that we have missed something as a community big time. Throwing garbage in an open area for so long reflects that we are okay with that. People of Jamia Nagar think it’s the MLA’s duty to solve their problems. Things will not change until we are conscious enough to solve our own problems.
Jamia Nagar is jam packed due Ramzan and Eid shopping in these days. I had to run some errands but going to Batla house by bike was a bad idea, so I traveled by the electric rickshaw.
These electric rickshaws have become very common in these areas, and we now see plenty of them everywhere. In the beginning, they use to wait for 4-5 people before making any journey but now I saw them only with 2-3 passengers because of the sudden increase in their numbers. Due to this they also have started to play an important role in traffic jams.
I often have small talks while commuting it helps me understand other person’s point of view. Today was not an exception and I started talking to the driver. Interestingly I got to know about various trade secrets about buying a good electric rickshaw, and in addition to that, I got to know about his life. He was an electrician and was working in Saudi Arabia for last 3 years, and while waiting for the visa for his next visit he thought it would be a good idea to run electric rickshaw during the waiting period.
“The most difficult part for rickshaw driver is that nobody treat us well, and we are the first person to be thrashed in any traffic jams”, he said.
It made me think how difficult it really is for those who are in this business helping so many people commute so well in difficult times, and yet they are the ones who are treated as if they don’t have any dignity.
They not only deliver extraordinary animated content but also give us a message to remember. A couple of days ago I watched “Finding Nemo” even though I had seen this movie earlier re-watching it gave me some insight which I could never have had in the past because of my own limitations.
The father-son relationship, and how ego comes into play to create havoc in their lives is worth noticing. How the clownfish went against all odds and traveled the ocean (despite the fact that he was so afraid of the ocean) to find his son and how the ocean helped him do so was just extraordinary. There’s always a deep meaning in these movies, although it seems they are meant for the children but adults can learn so much from it.
Every Pixar movie has a great message buried deep within the animation and only capable people can find those messages. These movies help us in understanding human psychology though the beauty is that people who are unable to see those aspects wouldn’t even notice those things which are placed carefully there for people who can.
Whatever we focus on we get exactly that. If you think you are surrounded by morons, you are probably right because that’s what you are focusing on and that’s exactly what you will get.
I have a little experiment for you, it will only take 2 minutes of your time. Quickly scan your surrounding and count the number of objects you find which are the color orange. Now close your eyes and count the number of objects which had the color green. What you’ll realize is that you couldn’t find any object which is of green color with your eyes closed . Now open your eyes and scan again. You’ll discover that many green colored objects were right in front of you and you had missed it.
That’s the beauty of the brain.
The mind only brings forward the things which we want to see and focus upon. If you focus on finding good in people, you will get that. You can find good qualities in any moron. I know it’s difficult to channelize your energy from finding faults to find good in people but once you create a habit, it would be very easy, and the life would become much easier.
To sum it up, the people you meet are not simply good or evil rather they also have multitudes like you and it’s up to you to uncover their shades.
Deaths due to diseases are all time low, overall standard of living throughout the globe has been increased many folds. Never before in the history there has been a time where information was so freely available on this scale, on the contrary, it was kept in secret and a very few privileged people had access to the information.
The way we connect and chat with people all around the world and that too at minimum or no cost is absolutely amazing(considering you are using Facebook or WhatsApp).
How can we not be grateful?
I talked to one of my friends in the US for about 30 minutes in the morning, more than an hour with a friend living in Germany in the evening, absolutely free of cost. If I go back in time and told you that 10 years from now you can call anyone, anywhere around the globe with zero money you would have laughed very hard (since 10 years from now we had outgoing call rates as well as incoming call rates).
Elon Musk is designing a system where travel would be free of cost. I know it sounds hilarious but so is free calling. This is the best time ever, yes it definitely has some pros and cons, but focusing on pros can certainly make a difference in your life.
There is a huge advantage of writing every day. It gives me an ample amount of opportunity to experiment and not agonize too much about the outcome. It gives me enough space to be creative and write on almost anything without worrying. To be remarkable at anything we have to master the skill-set and for that, the skill must run in the blood.
In medical terminology, it is called muscle memory. Generally, we do all the thinking from Pre-Frontal Cortex which is the front part of the brain, but once we master a skill it becomes reflex and the brain responds instantaneously. Learning to drive a car is a painful process where we have to do many things at once. After doing it over and over again the mind starts to recognize the pattern and the control slowly shifts from Pre-Frontal Cortex to Amygdala(the lower portion of the brain) and becomes the muscle memory where it takes less than a microsecond to respond which is awesome.
Therefore, to be good at anything we have to practice over and over again so that it becomes the muscle memory and after that we would not need Pre-Frontal Cortex(the thinking part of the brain) which takes more time to execute a job than Amygdala and whatever we do would be remarkable.
My friend casually said, “I guess that’s how the world works now”. I didn’t want to object him so I just nodded but it got me into thinking about how we shape the world around us by little observations we make and come up with wrong conclusions as we go along.
These self-made conclusions subtly alter our principles upon which we define our life. My friend was wrong in a certain way but the way he perceived the situation made him think that it’s the only way the world works now which he didn’t know about before.
Let me share an example, a person who steals for livelihood justifies it as it is the only way to survive in the fast and extremely competitive world and he is right in his way of thinking. The fundamental principle on which his life is built has stealing as primary source of income. The example I shared here is at the extreme end of the spectrum. What generally happens is that we alter our belief system and make wrong assumptions as we go along and suffer in the long run.
Trail and error is one of way living but it certainly is not the best way to live and we can improve it by learning from the legends who came before us. We are prone to make mistakes and that is why it’s very important to learn from other people’s mistakes. The legends might not be with us anymore but they certainly have left their wisdom in the form of books.