Two Guys in A Room Analogy- Part 2

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Yesterday I talked about the two guys in a room analogy. When I first read about it I was dying to know how to get the shy guy to work (i.e. use my subconscious). In real life too our conscious mind almost always shadows the subconscious and I have been finding out the answers to get to our subconscious for a very long time.

This time a more practical approach have been discovered. Dr. Richard Wiseman in his book shares that if we want to get ideas from the shy guy we have to keep the other guy busy in some other activities. This approach is the opposite of what we actually do.

This approach says that if you have a very difficult challenge at hand and you are stuck somewhere, take a step back and indulge yourself in some other activities, take your mind off of the problem at hand and do something totally different. This will keep your conscious mind busy with the new problem at hand which is actually a disguise to keep the conscious mind busy. While the conscious mind is busy in solving the toy problem, your subconscious would be at work to find the most optimal solution of your first problem which was your actual problem.

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Emotions and Health

Emotions and health are very related. For a long period of time, the medical science did not believe this to be true but the recent discoveries show otherwise. It actually sounds obvious but due to lack of concrete data this was believed to be a myth.

Cancer patients who are optimistic in nature tend to live a much longer life than those who are lonely and depressed in spite of getting the exactly similar treatment. A happy state of mind helps the immune system which in turn extends the life expectancy of the patient. Angry people after getting their first heart attack are more prone to the second attack than people with who have their anger controlled. The studies showed that people who have a history of getting angry in general have more chances of getting a heart attack than people who don’t.

The antidote to hostility is to develop a more trusting heart all it takes is the right motivation when people see that their hostility can lead to an early grave they are ready to try.

Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ

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These facts actually sound trivial and obvious here but getting a scientific evidence is a huge deal for medical practitioners. Currently, the emotional needs of patients are not met especially in regions like India, Pakistan, and other neighboring countries but if we can make them aware of these little but important facts they would at least be conscious of their thoughts which in turn can improve their lives.

Book Review: Solving the Procrastination Puzzle

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Finally, I completed the book, “Solving the Procrastination Puzzle”. Well, I procrastinated too much while reading the book and because of that, it took me more than 3 weeks to read the book. The good thing is that every now and then I wrote my learnings from the book on my blog which turned out to be a great asset because now I can revisit it anytime I want and relearn from it. To read all the posts related to this book click here.

The book became really technical in the later half which actually led the delay. If the book is interesting it takes no time to read till the end but when it becomes too technical to understand it becomes difficult to follow through. With that said, I really liked the last chapter because it dealt with my problem specifically and showed the how I can overcome it (I would share the detail of my problem and its solution in the next post).

The bottom line is when we give in to feel good, we procrastinate. That’s it. It happens in almost any endeavor of life. When the going gets tough we find an easy way out and that’s what giving in to feel good mean and it leads to procrastination. For most of us, this has become a habit, we are habitual to procrastinate. Realizing this would be the first half of solving the procrastination puzzle and acting upon it to create a new habit of doing things rather than giving in to feel good is the solution that I have found for myself.

PS: My mother is doing fine, she is still in bed but fever and headache are down thankfully. Thank you for all your support.

1984: Book Review

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Yes, finally I completed the book, “1984” by George Orwell. I have written many posts related to the book and movie and discovered many facts while reading. You can find the related topics by clicking here.

Thanks to today’s turn of events that I finally completed the book, this is the reason why I love traveling by Metro it gives me ample time to read. It also makes me feel effective. Well, I have said a lot about this book , about how it has the tendency to depress the reader but nothing as compared with what I have read in the last two chapters of the book.

This would give you a clue about what I am saying that after completing the book I immediately had to start reading another book just to keep my mind off from 1984. Yes, it was that depressing. Thank God, 1984 was not like what George Orwell had in mind. This book is all about what would happen if the free will of human ceases to exist. This book made me realize that the diversity that we share and sometimes criticize is actually a good thing.

Freedom is freedom to say that two plus two makes four. That’s exactly what the protagonist had said in the beginning of the book when he started writing in his notebook, and in the end, he accepted that two plus two may equal five or anything which the party demands. Again, it was too depressing and I am grateful that we are not living in that kind of world.

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I would try to share a video review of this book on YouTube.

Emotional Intelligence

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A lot has been said and discussed on the topic, “Emotional Intelligence”. I have read a book called “Focus the Hidden Driver of Excellence” by Daniel Goleman (click here to watch my review of this book on YouTube) who has also written the book “Emotional Intelligence” which is New Your times best seller. After doing some research on it this book is on my watch list since “Focus”.

Last year I stumbled upon a video of Sandeep Maheshwari, since then I watched most of his videos from the life changing seminars to mediation techniques. I even have subscribed to his YouTube channel and I am a regular visitor to his channel. A couple of days ago I watched Sandeep Maheshwari talk about “Emotional Intelligence” which now has motivated me enough to read the book by Daniel.

So my next read after, “Solving the Procrastination Puzzle” and “1984” would be “Emotional Intelligence” by Daniel Goleman.

Next Books to Read

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Choosing which book to read next fills my world with excitement. It’s like deciding which world to open first, it’s like selecting which movie to watch next, the only difference is that after watching the movie we simply get entertainment and after completing a book we get knowledge which stays with us forever.

I have started reading “1984” by George Orwell, this book was written in 1948 and was set in the future to 1984, and I am reading it in 2016(sounds confusing right?). So basically I am going through Orwell’s point of view of what he thought 1984 would look like in 1948. I have seen this book’s reference in many movies and real stories. The famous Apple commercial called “1984” which was directed by Ridley Scott (who also directed movies like Gladiator, Prometheus & The Martian) was inspired by this book and this advertisement was a very big deal during that time, here is the YouTube link for the video.

Since I would be reading more than one book at a time, the next books in line are, “How to Master Your Time” by Brain Tracy and “Solving the Procrastination Puzzle” by Timothy A. Pychyl.

I would be sharing my learning in subsequent posts.

Book Review: Permission Marketing

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Finally, I completed the book, “Permission Marketing” by Seth Godin (It feels so good to write those words). This book is all about marketing strategies that companies have adopted over the time. Seth Godin has peeled their strategies one by one like an onion and has explained it’s different viewpoints.

We are constantly being interrupted by the marketing people i.e. the movies that we watch, the websites we visit, and the most irritating of all the YouTube ads. First, the author explained about how this existing process is being refined so that people get ads based on their buying and browsing behaviour.

He then explained a new marketing strategy called “the permission marketing” where the customer gives his consent to be marketed, that’s new and much more effective kind of marketing. He shared how this is already being practiced for decades. He also shared the blunders giant companies have made by exploiting the permission they got from their customers and the price they have paid in return.

In short, if you don’t have a marketing degree and you are wondering if you should pursue this field or not, then this book could be a very good start.

The $100 Startup: Book Review

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You know that you have developed a new habit when it is the only thing you can think about after having dinner. Yes, I am talking about my blogging. Research says that it takes 21 days to create a new habit, thankfully it has been more than 9 months and I am still doing it every day. Indeed it is one of the best habits I have ever created.

Thank you, everyone, for helping me in this journey.

I finally completed the book “The $100 Startup” by Chris Guillebeau, I had heard so much about this book and finally, I finished it. This book basically contains several stories of solopreneurs, (solo entrepreneurs) and accidental entrepreneurs. Their fascinating stories would compel you to think that if that could have happened to them it could also happen to you too. The simplicity in the stories is one of the most loving characteristics of the book. This book shares the step by step guidelines of how to build a business from scratch and also shares the steps taken by the people who have done it successfully.

The people featured in this book, all of them have started their business with less than $1000, and their current income is more than $50,000. This is the basic criteria Chris has chosen to include the people in his book. Sounds too good to be true, well you have to read in order to find the truth. Thank you Tauseef for mentioning this book, it was a good read.

PS: I will complete “Permission marketing” by Seth Godin in next week.

On Reading Multiple Books at Once

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While reading books I had one core discipline in mind which was, I would read only one book at a time, and I would pick up a new book only after completing the one which I started in the first place. This strategy, however, was keeping me away from reading new and exciting books which I wanted to read during that time and there was too much pressure on selecting the next book. On the brighter side, it also drove me to complete the one which I was reading in order to read the one which I really wanted to read.

In between reading books and doing my day job I also read a lot of blog by various bloggers around the world starting from Seth Godin to Darius Foroux. One thing I found common in all of them are that they read many books at the same time, meaning they don’t wait for one book to complete in order to read next, they read one book in the morning and a different one in the evening. In the beginning, I thought of this strategy as a distraction.

Now I am practicing this strategy and it is kind of fun. It’s true that books do get boring at times and at that time picking up a new book is relly very exciting. Surprisingly enough the book which I got boring the previous day becomes relevant and interesting the very next day.

At present, I am reading “How Mind Works” by Steven Pinker, “The $100 Startup” by Chris Guillebeau, and “Permission Marketing” by Seth Godin.

Book Review : “Autobiography of A Yogi” by Yogananda Paramhansa.

As you know I have been reading the book, “Autobiography of A Yogi” by Yogananda Paramhansa.

I completed the book couple of days back. To tell you the truth I never wanted the book to be completed. I was so mesmerized by the events in the book that I still wonder how awesome it would have been to live those moments.

The book cleared many doubts for me, I use to think that hindu religion has no concrete beginning like Christianity and Islam, after reading the book I now am starting to understand how this ancient religion still exists.

It is very difficult to pinpoint what I liked and to summarize what I have learnt from the book, and I think I would not do justice with the book if I mention some of the incidents while leaving others.

With that said, let me share with you briefly what this book is about.

Yogananda from the early stage of his life start searching for a mentor, which he got in his late teens. In his journey I got to know about many great personalities of that time including Mahavatar Babaji, Lahiri Mahasaya, Swami Sri Yukteswar Giri and many other saints. I learned about all of them separately and got to know more about their lives and the experience was amazing.
In the meantime I asked about these personalities with my hindu friends also but to my surprise none of my friends have heard any of them. These people were the reviver of Hindu religion and it’s very sad to see that nobody talks about them.

Yogananda mentioned about his trip to America and Europe and all the adventures he had while those trips. Thanks to his amazing writing skills, I felt that I was with him too.

This book also talks about life after death and to my utmost surprise the belief that we as a Muslim hold for life after death is much similar than the one which is described the book. There are many other learnings from the book which is not possible to write in one post so I have decided that I would share my learning in subsequent posts.

I am so happy that I read this wonderful book because I have found deep respect and love for hindu religion after this experience.

I have been meditating before reading this book also, but now I know how to find answers to my problem in meditation.

This book is definitely a must read for those who like to know more about hindu religion and to know more about people of God realization.


Faisal