Do you live alone or with a partner?
It’s obvious that whoever is living with you matters, but when I read about the behavioural changes in ourselves when we lives with another person in the book Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman it made me rethink the time spent with those people who have lived with me in the past and how they have influenced me for the better or the worse.
The thing is that we subconsciously mimic the other person whether we like it or not. Sound bizarre.?
It actually is.
But then when I analyzed my behavior in the past it kind of makes sense. The interesting thing is that while you are subconsciously mimicking the other person, the other person is also busy mimicking you subconsciously irrespective of whether he likes you or not.
I would have suggested choosing your partner carefully but then I remembered, you already knew that but I bet you had no idea that you have been mimicking your room partner the whole time.
Emotions and health are very related. For a long period of time, the medical science did not believe this to be true but the recent discoveries show otherwise. It actually sounds obvious but due to lack of concrete data this was believed to be a myth.
Cancer patients who are optimistic in nature tend to live a much longer life than those who are lonely and depressed in spite of getting the exactly similar treatment. A happy state of mind helps the immune system which in turn extends the life expectancy of the patient. Angry people after getting their first heart attack are more prone to the second attack than people with who have their anger controlled. The studies showed that people who have a history of getting angry in general have more chances of getting a heart attack than people who don’t.
The antidote to hostility is to develop a more trusting heart all it takes is the right motivation when people see that their hostility can lead to an early grave they are ready to try.
Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ
These facts actually sound trivial and obvious here but getting a scientific evidence is a huge deal for medical practitioners. Currently, the emotional needs of patients are not met especially in regions like India, Pakistan, and other neighboring countries but if we can make them aware of these little but important facts they would at least be conscious of their thoughts which in turn can improve their lives.
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Thank God, I finally started the long awaited book, “Emotional Intelligence” by Daniel Goleman. I have read the book, “Focus: The Hidden Driver of Excellence” by the same author, you can find the video review of the book by clicking here , and you can also find other related stuff by clicking here. The book, “Emotional Intelligence” was first published in 1995 and I am reading its 10th edition so there no question doubting the book.
For the major part of today’s reading the author dedicated the text to establish the ground for the aforementioned topic and how the world has responded to it until now. He shared the number of countries around the world which have accepted the theory of emotional intelligence and have included SEL(Social and Emotional Learning) in children’s curriculum as a result.
To put in layman terms (and I am a layman until now since I only have read one tenth of the book) Emotional Intelligence is basically the person’s ability of self-control, the amount of which he is persistent, and his the ability to motivate himself when he is down. Daniel Goleman says that it is one of the most important factors in anybody’s success. I am looking forward to learning a lot from this book. Stay tuned for more updates.